Tag Archives: Queer

Better Man

Posted on February 20, 2023 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

For at least a few moments, before we had children, Carri and I had this one perfect moment where we had a sense of control about who our kids would be. See, we adopted through foster care, and as a part of … Continue reading →

Posted in Sermons, Sexuality | Tagged children, Feminism, Feminist, Freedom, gender, Genders, Kathryn Bond Stockton, Masculinities, Masculinity, Men, Parenting, Queer, Sermon, Sermons, Sex, Sexuality, Teenagers, Teens, Women, Youth | Leave a comment

Queer More Than Memory (or, the closets made from the words we didn’t yet have)

Posted on October 20, 2022 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

This post is a companion piece to a post I wrote in February 2015, “A Conversation Begins with a Lie…” Like a lot of moments in my life, I recently realized something important while listening to the Indigo Girls. Carri … Continue reading →

Posted in Blog Reflections, Personal Stories, Sexuality | Tagged Aging, Be More Gay, Bisexuality, Coming Out, Delight, Free, Freedom, Gay, Genderqueer, Growing Older, Indigo Girls, LGBTQ, Memory, Middle Aged, Monogamy, Non-Binary, Nostalgia, Poly, Polyamorous, Power, Queer, Queer Joy, Queerness, Sexualities, Sexuality | Leave a comment

Earth Seeds – an Earth Day homily for 2022

Posted on April 24, 2022 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

Reading by Paul Hawkens from his book Re-Generation Homily: Earth Seeds Sermon: Earth Seeds – Gretchen This week I was talking to a colleague about his church and how things are going, and he hesitated “So much has changed, and … Continue reading →

Posted in Sermons | Tagged adrienne maree brown, Build, Choice, Climate, Climate Crisis, Climate Justice, Creativity, Earth, Earth Day, Emergence, Generativity, Homily, LGBTQ, Life, Marge Piercy, Queer, Queerness, Regeneration, Response, Sermon, Sermons, viktor frankl, Vision | Leave a comment

Gay Enough

Posted on April 15, 2022 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

My partner Carri and I were pretty early in our relationship when we started to wonder if we were “gay enough.” It wasn’t a new question for me; as a bi-identified person, more than a few lesbians have over the … Continue reading →

Posted in Blog Reflections, Justice, Personal Stories, Sexuality | Tagged Acceptance, Beloved, Bisexuality, Community, Enough, Friendship, Gay, Genderqueer, identity, Lesbians, LGBTQ, Love, Queer, Sexual orientation, Sexuality, transgender | 1 Comment

Be More Gay

Posted on April 15, 2022 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

After my last post, I kept thinking about how to take these ideas and invite in a collective conversation, as well as a more intentional strategic response. The conversation part that I’m thinking about is a kind of playful response … Continue reading →

Posted in Blog Reflections, Justice, Personal Stories, Sexuality | Tagged Church, Community, Faith, Gay, gender, Genderqueer, LGBTQ, Love, Non-Binary, Pride, Queer, trans, transgender | Leave a comment

Now is not a time for passing

Posted on April 1, 2022 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

With every new headline or “debate” about the latest wave of anti-LGBTQ legislation, I hear Audre Lorde: “My silence had not protected me. Your silence will not protect you.” In Florida, the literal intent of the law is silencing- to … Continue reading →

Posted in Blog Reflections, Justice, Personal Stories | Tagged Audre Lorde, Cis, Freedom, gender, Genderqueer, LGBTQ, Liberation, Non-Binary, Passing, Queer, Queerness, Straight, TDOV, trans, TransDayofVisibility, transgender, Visibility | Leave a comment

The Choice to “Dress Up” – A Mother’s Day Reflection

Posted on May 9, 2021 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

A Conversation with Drag Kings Pastors A Conversation About Mom Jeans on Mother’s Day The Choice to “Dress Up” Mother’s Day – like motherhood itself can be really complicated. We come with so many different stories of our own mothers, of the … Continue reading →

Posted in Sermons | Tagged Clothing, Drag, gender, Justice, Mom, Moms, motherhood, Performance, Performative, play, Playful, Queer, Sermon, Sermons, trans, Woman, Women | Leave a comment

The Power of How We Dress: Introducing the Drag King Pastors

Posted on May 9, 2021 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

The first big fight I had with my parents when I was in college was not – despite what you might think – when I told them I was switching majors from math to theatre. For that, they were more….trying … Continue reading →

Posted in Blog Reflections, Sermons | Tagged Clothing, Costumes, Drag, gender, Liberation, Power, Queer, Shakespeare, Theatre | Leave a comment

Shows, a Sabbatical Story

Posted on August 11, 2019 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

I trace my love affair with TV to Bruce Willis and Cybill Shepherd. Moonlighting ran from when I was 10 to 14, a time when I had a super small TV in my bedroom. Before I even knew it was … Continue reading →

Posted in Blog Reflections | Tagged Joy, Pleasure, Pop Culture, Queer, Sabbath, Sabbatical, Television | 1 Comment

God is Trans – Sermon July 15 2018

Posted on July 18, 2018 by Rev. Gretchen Haley

First Reading – From William Ellery Channing’s Likeness to God Second Reading – God Says Yes to Me by Kaylin Haught Sermon – God is Trans A couple of weeks ago, I got into a fight with a stranger on … Continue reading →

Posted in Sermons, Sexuality, Theology | Tagged Atheism, Atheists, gender, God, Queer, Sermon, Sermons, Theism, Theists, Theology, transgender, Truth, Unitarian Universalism, William Ellery Channing | 1 Comment